Crossroads aren’t always between the paths you should be taking in life. I know what my future path holds. The crossroad is more about having a wide array of options for how to feel about it.
What is this really thin line between increasing your threshold of bearing ignorance and standing up for what you feel is wrong.
I guess being sensitive, and being prone to anxiety does you more harm than good. What also does more harm is seeing through people’s actions and words, noticing the subtle innuendos humans use to sugar coat their ‘fair’ stance which is wobbly like their logic. I’m in a constant flux of disappointment. Another thing that does one a lot of harm is expecting. Yes, I get it – One shouldn’t have expectations. But is it realistically possible to scrap all expectations out of your being because there is a possibility that people might not live up to it. You’re supposed to learn from your past mistakes, and just lower your expectations. Easier said than done, mister.
What can be the best possible course of action that you take in life to save yourself the stress, hurt and all those horrible feelings. I don’t know.
Maybe it is this simple, painful yet liberating realization to seep into your bones. – Life doesn’t owe you anything. You’re not entitled to special treatment, and neither are you a victim in life. Life is a struggle, and it will always be one. Poor people struggle to have a roof above their head, and to not sleep hungry. Warren Buffet’s struggle is to decide what to invest in next. It’s important to take control over one’s own life, and feel responsible for one’s struggles. We have the power to choose the kind of problems we want in life, I wish we could all, always choose good problems for ourselves. Now trying to wake up early and go to the gym – that’s a good problem. Studying for 8 hours a day to ace your upcoming exam – good problem. Eating healthy, choosing good fat and being at your optimum weight for your highest good – Good problem. All of these are good struggles. It’s a struggle to sincerely study for 7 hours, I’m usually done by 4 and I know it isn’t enough. Truly a good struggle to have in life. Taking tension about things out of your control – bad problem. It’s true that there are many instances thrown in my life that hurt me. I have to accept I have no control over it. I can’t go around beating the drum and asking people to respect my wants, my needs and my expectations. There’s always someone more important that takes my limelight and dwells in it, because your life could be yours, your milestones could be yours and yours alone, but other people’s ignorance will lead YOU to have to take a step back and accept the only condition kept in front of you, because your milestone can only be accomplished at other people’s convenience, garnished with your significant other’s perennial ignorant nature.
Coming back to the realization, its absolutely true. Life doesn’t owe you shit. The only way to attaining peace in the latter day of the law is to simply accept what you have control over, accept that there are certain things you don’t have control over. Focus more on what you do have control over. Repeat.
On a side note, two families uniting in the patriarchal nature of society, there is love for daughters and pretentious love for daughter-in-laws. Treating you like your voice doesn’t exist is true (if you’re female that is). It is great in many ways, but in most of the ways I have experienced it, it tastes like patriarchy and sexism, with a tinge of misogyny. And the cherry on the cake is, if the S/O is an ignorant sexist himself.(good luck!)
Note to self – accept what you have control over, accept that there are certain things you don’t have control over. Focus more on what you do have control over. Repeat.
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