Category Archives: Live it – Love it

HNY it is!

Happy New Year everyone! 🙂

Happy 2k15 everyone. I hope you all have a great year! May this year bring in a lot of positivism and happiness. May we all become better individuals. May we all get closer to where we intend to reach in our lives.

Let’s start this new year on an insightful note. Let us all respect the ones who love and care for us. A lot of us complain of not being treated the right way by our loved ones. How about we change our perspectives. If we treat everyone we meet with kindness and sincerity and vouch never to intentionally hurt someone with our insensitive words and consciously make an effort to screen our sharp words maybe, just maybe we wont be treated that way too.

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Work hard, love enough and partyyy! Cause baby, we all just have one lifetime to do everything that we want to.

+ PinkDragon +

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Are we ever ‘ready’ to lose our loved ones?

One of my closest friends lost her mother today morning. Aunty was one of the happiest people I knew, always cracking jokes and someone who had an absolutely delightful sense of humor. She hadn’t been taking her pressure medicines from a few days which caused her pressure to drop alarmingly, which eventually led to brain hemorrhage. All of this happened in just 4 days.. Where ever you are aunty, may you rest in peace. I promise I’ll take care of A.

More than often we procrastinate. “I’ll catch up tomorrow” or “I’m waiting for the right time” or “After my exams or this particular date, I’ll spend time or figure things out”. Unconsciously, we take life for granted. So much so that life has to sometimes wake us up in the most unexpected of ways. No matter how much I do, I will never really understand my friend’s pain of losing her mother. We can never ever be ready to lose our loved ones..

A, you know I love you. I always have and I always will. I’m sorry but you have to bear with my lame jokes and stupid one liners which make you laugh none the less. Your wall will always be there. My extremely long bear hugs are reserved, just for you.

Always. :*

+ PinkDragon +


Fill the void with Immense strength.

Oh Lord, give me strength, Pure Sheer Strength,

To reach where I want to, to be kickass in the paper I am about to give in May. To be independent and indispensable where ever I belong professionally and, personally.
To love something so beautiful that I can be my real self and have no fear of being stranded. To feel so beautiful that being around makes my heart flutter like the wings of a hummingbird. Coming to think of everything, I have no idea what will happen in the future. Professional front, I have aims to go towards. Personal front, I have no idea.
Will I be alone all my life and probably have a litter of puppies and an aquarium to my sanctity or the constant solitude will make me a hep hippie who travels and lives alone. Or maybe, maybe I’ll be someone who has a happy ending to the sleeping alone and a true love start to sharing beds, legally.

Oh Lord, Strength.

+ PinkDragon +


Some people are meant to be their own Super Hero.

I feel the weather acting up when I feel something strong. It’s like the nature responds to the tornado going on within me. Even though at the moment, everything is gloomy around me, I feel the sunshine pierce right through my soul. It’s asking to wake up to the call, the call that I have been avoiding from a very long time.

Why if I may ask is the wind acting up now when the temperature soars up to 37 degrees in the day. Why am I to deal with such extremities of life? Then there is silence. I can hear the silence. Something within me answers, in the most innocent and noble voice ever, “Isn’t this, what Life is all about; two extremities balancing its existence in the universe which we call ours?”

I look up at the sky, waiting for divine intervention to take me out of the pain I’m feeling. The pain of holding on when I know it’s a one way street and it probably will always be so. It feels like my insides mould into a small tortoise when I feel pain. My voice fails me. Stomach clenches and I go into the realm of silence. I prefer solitude to anything, even delicious chocolate frosted cupcakes don’t invite me. I observed myself very closely this time when I was hurt. The pain makes me cold to others. To keep myself safe from another round of being hurt, I protect myself. This protection seems cold to others. You know what’s the most hilarious part? The other person does something yet again, almost in a successive fashion that pierces right through me again and breaks my strength like you blow off a pyramid of playing cards by a phoo!

Why am I always secondary for the people who are always primary for me.
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The stars seem to wipe the crystals off my face and tell me that it’s okay to be all by yourself. It’s okay if at the end you’ve got no one but the stars by your side. I did my part, so what if people always forget to fulfill their in my life.
Cause I have always given and never received.
Yet I give. Not in the hope that I might receive someday.
But because, I love them.

Some people are meant to be their own heroes, their own superman.
You know what comforts me in the midst of solitary academic activities of studying and cramming all day long is this quote, “Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.” By Louisa May Alcott. I fell in love with classics after reading little women by her and now, getting inspiration for life by her quotes.

How can I give up on myself when the only person who’s been with me through thick and thin is my insides which took the harshest of storms with poise only to emerge more victorious than before? I love myself. Point Blank.

After being sure of my thoughts I get up from the ground with a smile and look at the stars to bid them goodbye, only to see the stars apparently smile at me back making my smile wider than before.

+ PinkDragon +


Just a passing thought.

Elizabeth Gilbert’s words. I happened to stumble upon it a while back and it just took me back.

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master..”

I don’t know if I truly believe in it but I won’t deny the fact that I’m intrigued by this thought.
I think we all should develop our own meanings of life. Yes, reading that of others really does help but at the end it should be your thought and not just a blind belief in someone else’s delved one. Your belief could be a culmination of a lot of quotes and words by many or you could have an absolutely independent thought. What I simply mean is think for yourself.
If they could have their quotes and words, so could you.

To emote anything towards a person, you need to first have it for yourself.
Like trust. For you to have true faith on someone, first you got to have faith on yourself. Same with love. Before loving someone, you have to love yourself.

Hate? Umm.. I don’t know about this one. I don’t believe in hating anyone in the first place. I can despite someone. But hate? Nah. Life is too short to hate someone. I can never hate anyone. Never. Cause god forbid if something happens to that someone, I will never be able to forgive myself. Never.

Plus, hate is too negative an emotion. It gives out such negative vibes. Creates an environment so unwanted that no one would want that in the first place. We all are humans. The food for humans is not merely dal chawal ( okay it is 😛 technically! ) but is essentially happiness.

Happiness is everything. The key. The solution. The charm. The love. The reason. The result. The desire. The elixir.

Just everything..

+ PinkDragon +


The broiler of glee.

I am in my bestest of moods today. I cooked and everything I made was loved by others. 😀

I’m not really a chef type of a person. When it comes to baking or cooking, I’m very moody. I don’t like being said ‘you’re a girl, you should cook often!’. That turns me off so much that I retaliate back with over flowing feminism topped with sarcasm. My mom got so tired of my neglecting the kitchen all the time that she lost hope. Though I used to make cakes once in a time.

From the past few weeks I’m cooking something healthy and different every saturday for mumma. She’s very happy and very proud of me.
Last week I cooked healthy authentic italian starters and she loved them.
This week, I organized a mini tea party for her. I made cupcakes with fluffy vanilla frosting and chocolate ganache , a chocolate cake with again ganache icing, carrot cheese open sandwiches which had a crunchy toast beneath ( the picture isn’t there cause it finished in a jiffy 😀 ) , litchi surprise and lots of love.
I loved doing every little thing of it. Slogging out in the kitchen is one hell of a task but the smile you get to see when all you love take the first bite is totally worth it. The culinary magic is in my genes. 😛

Monster, tammy and devi also dropped in, invited. They loved everything too.

I kept the cake for our family time at night. My brothers loved the cake. Not only because I made it 😀 but also because it was so so tasty. When I tasted all of it, I couldn’t believe that I could cook and cook pretty well in fact!

My class has chefs of all types. Maggi is the most amazing young chef I’ve met. Vedu, pk, moon all of them are really good at cooking. I loved eating. But now I realise the happiness in seeing your creation be a success satisfies all your hunger.

We all look for acceptance and happiness everywhere. And the best reward we get is by making others happy. Even if that’s for just some time maybe.

I’m glad I’ve taken this initiative. Its an amazing feeling all together.

Try doing some thing. I’m not saying that start cooking or something. No. I mean that start doing something for which you are rewarded with happiness.

It will make you beam with lightness from within.

Happiness. 🙂

X PinkDragon X


Vive la Freedom.

I have a really tough time putting my thoughts into words when I begin with my notions about freedom to my friends, parents or even my carpool driver. I thought to myself, if I can’t put into words what is so important to me; I will fail as an individual who loves words. I’m going to put all I have within me to make it happen.

Freedom isn’t hoisting the flag on Independence Day or rightfully claiming ‘freedom’ when you’ve done something wrong. Freedom is more than all of this. It’s behaving in a certain manner, thinking in a certain manner at your OWN discretion.

We are free from the British Rule, but are we really a free country? Let’s climb down to the micro level, are we even free human beings?

Celebrating our 65th Independence anniversary and 66th year of Independence, it makes me wonder how far we’ve come and at what cost. Highlighting our countries famous and viral show – ‘Satyamev Jayate’ has managed to warm heart and bring tears to all our eyes who have watched it even once. The show is off air now. Does the substance of the show matter to you?

“Yes it did matter, but the shows over now.. And what can I do? I mean I can’t change the world right? Chill man all these things keep on happening!” – Anonymous (no names mentioned as I respect their anonymity)

This is it? This is how much we can be affected by something so substantial? By saying what can I do, you are undermining the enormous power given to you. The power to change resides with us. Don’t make yourself feel unfortunate because you can’t do anything to change it. That is YOUR notion, YOUR stupid perspective. Don’t go telling people to chill cause we’ve had enough of chilling, 65 years to be precise. You all have chilled so much that you guys have frozen. Turned into cold strangers to whom nothing matter as long as they can earn handsome amount of money and have some fun!

Make a promise to yourself, YOU wont discriminate when you will be having your child.

I am a girl child. And my parents wanted me even after having two sons. Yes, it’s a true story, it’s my story.

I study in a posh school where children from the high end society come to study (and show off). I have seen cases in my school where the parents get so obsessed with having a boy child that they keep trying even when their eldest child is in college! You think the girl child will be incapable of taking care of you when you grow up cause she will be busy managing her own house? Or she is incapable ‘cause she won’t be earning? Our statistics show that most of the boys who are so obsessed after are the ones who leave their parents to fend for themselves or send them money every month and consider their responsibility over. Very few, mark me very few provide their parents with the emotional support and affection they require the most. Freedom means letting go off all these cultural stupidity, letting go off these thoughts. Adopt new thinking. Adopt YOUR thinking. If your ancestors said boys are a necessity in the family, they were wrong. Why? Can’t old people be wrong? And why in the first place are we supposed to follow all this even NOW? Don’t you all have a mind of your own? Can’t you all think and make decisions for yourself? I don’t mean to say boy children are bad. I just mean to say that they aren’t the only good ones. There are daughters too.

“A son is a son till he gets a wife
A daughter is a daughter throughout her life.”

Yet we are an independent country and all of us are free citizens.

Knowledge is power. But do we have the power to choose in which sphere we want to attain knowledge? Do we have the freedom of choice? Freedom to choose our specialization arena? No, not really. Not all of us. When I asked one of my junior as to why did he take up science when he dint want to, he replied,

“What to do di? In my family no science means you are a certified fool! I dint want to be called a fool. Plus I wanted to get into media and all. If I would have told my dad, he would have flipped. What to do yaa. Maybe I’m just not blessed!”

Blessed? Phew. Don’t get destiny to take all the blame for when you yourself cannot fight for what you want. Take a stand. Don’t crib. Do something to change it. Make your parents see sense. Tell them what you want to do. Explain to them that you want to go where your interest takes you cause where interest is aptitude will be there and success won’t be far then. Tell them you don’t want to be a part of the rat race. Tell them the world has changed. They are your parents. They will understand. If they don’t, make them understand. Take help from your teachers. OR you can even contact me. Don’t give up. Don’t lose hope. Do everything in your means and beyond your means to make them know you.

Most of the suicides take place because students aren’t given freedom to choose what they want to do in life. They are thrown in to the realm to fulfill their parents’ desires. If they fail, they go ahead and kill themselves.

Dear Parents,
The world has changed. Nowadays a photographer is paid more than a doctor. Stop convincing yourself with the superficial thoughts of which profession is more respectable. If you are successful in what you do, respect and money follow like bees. Let your child be free of your chains. Let your child be. Let them make their own mistakes and have their own experiences to share later on. This is how they will really learn. You want their welfare, so do they my good sir and mademoiselle.


Yet we are an independent country and all of us are free citizens.


Friendship sees no language, no differences. It is a bond beyond rationality. It only knows the language of care and affection. How would you feel if your parents ask you to not be friends with someone and break ties just because they are of a religion unacceptable to them?

You would see no sense in all of it right? My friend had the same feeling of confusion when his father asked him to do the same. His father is a businessman and the owner of a very famous lingerie brand in India. Educated and very successful portray such narrow thinking? He was asked to curb his outings with that such friend and minimize communication. When I asked my mom if she would do the same, she said yes. I was astonished and hurt. She being MY mother can think in such a manner even though she is the most liberal and broad minded person I have ever met?

Mamma and all those who think the same,
All of these are religious dogmas and nothing else. Friendship is the most beautiful and mutually beneficial relationship. What is the harm in it? I know you have no answer. Be free. Learn to let go off the walls. Try it, not only will you feel lighter and better, you will feel what most people just dream or pretend of feeling – Freedom: freedom from within, freedom of your inner self.


Yet we are an independent country and all of us are free citizens.

Freedom is not just being allowed to do what you want to. Freedom is being free from all dogmas. Freedom is to have the courage to be ‘you’ no matter what. It is to accept your imperfections and others’ as well, to be free from all the internal walls. Freedom means breathing in and experiencing what being alive means.

Freedom means to change the concept of change.

Freedom most importantly is to be YOU. To listen to your heart at all times. To do what you want to and not by being under any pressure be it peer pressure, social pressure or even familial pressure. Freedom is to be you despite of any or everything. Everything in the world is a matter of perspective. The day you feel free to accept your own perspective with confidence will be the day you will really be free.

No one can be YOU you-er than you.

Viva la Freedom.

X PinkDragon X